Surviving Homeschool

As an individual who was homeschooled from kindergarten until high school graduation, I am well aware of the biases and assumptions associated with the word, “homeschool.”

I used to be angered by the stereotypes, but I have come to understand that there is really a massive misunderstanding and ignorance surrounding the subject.

I also believe that, on some level, there are misunderstandings about privately-educated students, and perhaps even publicly-educated students from the aforementioned groups. But I can only speak from my perspective, so we will get started with home education.

“Lack of social skill”

This is the popular one. This stems from very memorable experiences that people have had with unusual people. It is probable that you have met someone who seems to have never watched television, read a newspaper, or has any social grasp whatsoever.

If that person had a very unique background or trait, it is likely that you assigned their “differences” to that uniqueness. Almost like the assumption that all redheads are hotheads, or all men are cheaters. It is an ignorance caused by the “loudest” or most distracting people coupled with the human tendency to want to “assign” people to groups. But if that unusual person also attended public school, you may begin to assign them to other groups based on where they live, if they attend church or not, or their ethnicity.

As for my social development, my parents put me on sports teams, clubs, and allowed me to “network” and make friends and go out. People don’t meet me and know that I was homeschooled right away, but the parents must be proactive in facilitating this type of lifestyle.

“Untrained educators”

This one is inherently true. There are a very small percentage of home educators that have a degree in education, specifically. The connotation with this verbiage is the issue.

If you were to take the time to study and read through different types of homeschooling curriculum, you would find that they are composed differently than other types of material. The parents or tutors have to teach reading, writing, and basic arithmetic, but beyond that it is designed to teach the student to teach themselves.

Because of this design, I was well-equipped to help myself through college and teach myself any other hobbies or skills that I desired. I truly think that anyone can learn to thoroughly teach themselves if they really want to, being educated this way from kindergarten just made it easier.

“No field trips”

Or “exposure to new things.” Actually, we probably had more “field trips” than other types of students. There are homeschool groups that offer the opportunity to go on outings with other students throughout the year, but for the most part it was our “principal” who loved taking us places.

My father loved taking us to mountains, trails, activity centers, fishing, etc. Our mother was the one home with us most days, but every opportunity that Dad got, he was enriching our lives with adventures and new things.

“Harsh transition to the ‘real world’”

Until educators from all platforms begin to help teenagers get their first job, explain to them the actual hard work that goes into promoting, teach them how to budget while working and going to school full-time, et cetera, then I’m not sure anyone can say that their teachers taught them how to live in the “real world”; life teaches you that.

It is the role of the parents/parental figures in every type of household to get their children ready to grow up to the best of their ability, and most want to so that their own morals and values are the foundation.

“Feels like never leaving class”

This is a very silly one. The other assumptions are at explainable. But I can’t say that I can compare what it might have been like to be walking around my college hallways to being at home relaxing.

Yet, this has been asked of me on numerous occasions, “Doesn’t it feel like being at school all of the time?”

Not at all, however, if I weren’t finishing my schoolwork on time, then I had to complete it even if it were past 3pm. But once I had completed my daily goals, I put my books and pencils away in my desk (which was a normal desk like you would have in your living room or home office), and ran off to play or eat or whatever. I didn’t have to be quiet or read silently until my siblings were done with their work; I just had to be in a different room so that they could concentrate.

Hopefully, if you weren’t homeschooled, then you may have a better understanding of what it is like now. Please leave feedback regarding this topic or maybe assumptions of other platforms of education that we could all learn from or understand more clearly.


8 thoughts on “Surviving Homeschool

  1. EmilyAnn Frances says:

    Thank you for sharing your experience and point of view. There is no way that blanket statements like the ones you experience apply across the board. I think that if a child gets into a class with disruptive students the risk of them learning more negative behaviors increases. It can also be a challenge that leads to good coping skills. It all comes back to the foundation provided by the parents and home life.

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    • beautyboozeandbudgeting says:

      Yes! I think it is the ultimate responsibility of the parents to provide that guidance, regardless of the type of education the child is receiving. I totally agree.

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      • EmilyAnn Frances says:

        Yes, that was my point. Home schooling is valid. I sometimes think that parents who agree to the focus of a home schooling can pool their resources together. In a way, the home schoolers become a community. I can actually envision families coming together to form groups that will take on the additional activities needed to ensure their children a well rounded education. I was very pleased to see your posting and hope you share more when and if you so wish.

        I attended public schools all my life and have become very cynical about what is promoted as “special programs” to “help” students advance. My parents were sold a line of pure malarkey (I’m being kind here) about a special progress enriched program for grades 7 through 9. What happened was a group of us students with good behaviors and good marks were mixed with a group of students with very negative behaviors who none the less had high reading scores. That did not negate their unfit social behaviors. The entire 3 years was a big experiment. We went from being “special progress enriched” in 7th grade to just a numbered class 8-3 in 8th grade. At 8th grade’s end many of the problem students moved on to Catholic high school! This left the core group that had been marked for the program from 5th grade (that’s when my parents got the malarkey from the elementary school) as the majority in the 9th grade. We became 9H with the H being “honors”. That third year saw my grades excel as the class and students flourished. But the marks of 2 years of witnessing bullying and anti-social behavior had left a mark. I lost respect for teachers who did little to make examples of the bullies and instead lectured the entire class as a way to shame us into good behavior. I do not think Home Schooled children would be subjected to so much distraction and so much unpleasantness.

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