"How was I so stupid to think that they'd want to waste time with me? What's great about me?"
At some point, you thought your life had turned into “Song of Solomon,” and you re-interpreted the verse, “I have found the one whom my soul loves.”
It is an ignorance caused by the “loudest” or most distracting people coupled with the human tendency to want to “assign” people to groups. But if that unusual person also attended public school, you may begin to assign them to other groups based on where they live, if they attend church or not, or their ethnicity.